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Con man swindles a long line of women—until one stops him

Sara Terry of the UK thought she met her mirror image in Peter Berry—the same view of life, the same interest in sports, even the same type of dog. She fell into a relationship with him, and later discovered she was one of many who did the same, and ended up swindled. But Sara Terry fought back.

Read I was caught in the seducer’s net on Mail Online.

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  1. bulletproof says:

    Oxy

    it’s not a theory, it’s my experience on meeting my son who I “lost” to adoption. (catholic country disgrace/sent to unmarried mothers home etc)
    He was 16 when I met him, and through out the years he would tell me that to be “abandoned” by your real mother is absolutely devastating. He was very angry with me, very upset, emotional and stayed glued to me for 10 years despite being 16 and with really good, happy beautiful adoptive parents….so I do not think you get a “blank slate” as the foetus lived for 9 months within the mother before ever going anywhere…..
    BUT I really do not know in the case of a psychopath…I guess it IS a state one comes in with??? I certainly do not beleive it is the fault of adoptive parents, I think GENETICS play a part, the PERSONALITY of the child plays a part, The UPBRINGING plays a part and also the UNRESOLVED FEELINGS AROUND BEING GIVEN AWAY plays a part.
    My son, who I gave up at birth to adoption, has the EXACT SAME mannersims as his biological father EVEN though he did not bring him up. My son also has the exact unusual sense of humour that I have, that I can only explain by the fact we are “Of the same stuff” regardless of upbringing…there are extraordinary physical likenesses, medical problem commonalities, the fact I can chat to my son for hours….because he thinks the same way and we have the EXACT same “way” of talking is incredible.

    As for psychopaths I’m unsure. Maybe it’s when all the factors conspire at a certain pitch ….a psychopath is born….maybe they “come in” that way regardless of parents…..but it is interesting if a psychopath was adopted….it’s another question mark, another angle to explore. How many of them are adopted for instance? etc. etc.

    I guess a normal kid “feels” the sadness associated with not knowing his real mother/father…what does a psychopath say about it? (((hugs back)))



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  2. bulletproof says:

    The P was not my sons father, my son is not a P…he is full of empathy and feelings.
    The P’s response to my life story (my son being adopted etc.) was:

    tell him to get over it. His mother has a right to live her life. he has no right to ask you for anything. He has no respect if he does (and of course he did ) my son objected to the P and there was a huge standoff between them. He was very impatient with him and more or less told him to F off the P told me to “forget him” and have another “proper” baby with him so we could be a real family…thank god I didnt…..



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  3. OxDrover says:

    Dear Bulletproof,

    I’m sorry I misunderstood about your son’s parentage. I AM glad you did not have a child with the P!

    Oh, I definitely agree that genes play a big part in who we are. I have raised animals for decades and seen the FAMILY lines of disposition in many kinds of animals, even cattle, which most people don’t realize have very deffinite patterns of “attitudes” and dispositions. I can almost perdict the aggressiveness of a given animal by the “family” traits in their lines. That is why it is so important in animals to “cull” for disposition in animals that can be aggressive (dogs, cattle, horses, etc) it isn’t just the species or sex of the animal that makes the difference, but the family line as well.

    I do understand some of what your son felt about being put up for adoption, my P-sperm donor did not come around me and I knew about him, I also WONDERED what he was like. I wondered why he had never been around me. Of course, too, with him being a psychopath, I was way too open to “loving” him and that let me become his victim because JUST because he was my “father” I gave him WAY too much trust! (ANY! IN HIS CASE!)



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  4. Dani S says:

    Oxy, How old were you when your started seeing your father? My daughter although only 2 1/2 is full of love and empathy. She adores animals and is very gentle, effectionate and loving with all family members and our pets. I am so worried if she has a personality like mine even with all the information on her father she will be sucked into him given the chance. I dont want her to get hurt the way everyone else has by him. It is my biggest worry and would love some feed back on it 🙂

    Bulletproof what an amazing person you are!



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  5. bulletproof says:

    Dani S

    Thank you! I have felt far from amazing in my life before the P came along, like a failure mother, the saddest woman and could never consider having another child because I left the one I had!! it was a desperate mistake to give my son up. It was years after re uniting with my son, and alot of therapy forgiving myself etc. I felt I deserved another chance at love…when I ran straight into the arms of the P…talk about unlucky!! or maybe lucky because don’t we learn so much? it’s like the honours class in lessons to learn isn’t it? Its the Phd in Reality!



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  6. neveragain says:

    I got hooked by a multi-millionaire…and he really is. But I am not a gold digger. Plus, usually with the really rich there are pre-nups and all that. But I knew in my heart that if he gave all his money to his kids and came to me dirt poor, I would have taken him. Come on! We all know about the spell they cast. There are many who PRETEND or ARE wealthy, thinking that is the best thing they’ve got going for them. But if you look at the profile of females caught by these kind of men, in “Women Who Love Psychopaths”, they don’t tend to be golddiggers. They tend to be loving, giving, generous, unselfish women, forgiving, trusting, etc.

    HE IS THE BAD GUY. If she is not perfect (but I bet she is as caring as most of us on this website), so what? She was emotionally raped and also experienced financial fraud, suffers anxiety attacks. She deserves 100% support! But Genevieve79, good for you for thinking that way! You are on hyperalert for sociopaths, and so am I, and if we error on the side of being too suspicious once in awhile, it is a whole lot better than the alternative. And if I’m wrong about this woman, so be it, and once in awhile a con gets conned, but usually not!



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  7. OxDrover says:

    Dear Dani,

    Sorry for the slow response to your question. MY P-sperm donor didn’t see me between the ages of 2 yrs and 17 yrs. I have ONE vague memory of him being at my grandparents house and me being shy about him (as a stranger) sort of hiding behind the door and looking at him. I never saw him again until one day when I was barely 17 he showed up to see me “while passing through town.” Actually he only spent about 10 minutes with me and the rest telling my mom what a BIG SHOT he was and I think that was the most of the reason for him coming there. The “blindsiding” us all and showing up out of the BLUE was very TRAUMATIC for me, and I cried and I cried (not sure why I was crying but I was)
    He didn’t show back up again for another year, not one word, but at that time I went to live with him. and I REALLY GOT TO KNOW HIM, and that he was EVIL.

    I spent the next 10 years healing from my 2 yrs of living with him. Trying to figure out the license number of the truck that had hit me head on. It was only decades later I found out what it was….a psychopath but by then I was dealing with another generation, my own P son. My son is very much like my father in many ways, he glories in being a “bad ass” and seeks attention and to “impress” others with himself and his “famous grandfather” who actually wouldn’t have peed on him if he had been on fire! LOL But my P-son is not even aware enough to know that his P-sperm donor one generation removed (i.e. grandfather) wouldl have not even spit on a convict like him! LOL LOL ROTFLMAO



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  8. Genevieve79 says:

    Cheers for your responses bulletproof and neveragain. Normally I would have instantly felt sorry for her but yeah I guess I am starting to read between the lines alot more lol! =D I noticed a few things in her story that made me feel it was a good idea to play devils advocate, express what I was thinking and to see what you guys thought about that.
    Something you said resonated with me neveragain about the conman sometimes being the conned. Interesting that, I wonder if that does happen? I suppose it does (anything in this universe is possible really!) but it’s fascinating to think about how often it happens and in what way. Can a seasoned conperson be conned? Excellent question! 😉 xxx



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