Many readers have told me that Lovefraud is the most comprehensive website about sociopaths on the Internet. According to Google Analytics, Lovefraud gets more than 50,000 visits a month, and of them, almost half are returning visitors.
People return, I’m sure, because of the Lovefraud Blog. As of May 1, 2010, a total of 716 articles, and more than 72,400 comments were posted on the blog. We have a vibrant, helpful conversation going. We talk about why sociopaths do what they do, how we fell into the trap, how we can recover, and the huge problem that these predators represent in the world. Anything related to sociopaths is fair game for discussion on the Lovefraud Blog.
So why am I starting another blog?
My new book is called Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan. This blog will focus on a topic that is occasionally touched on in the Lovefraud blog: Why, from a spiritual perspective, sociopaths may have come into our lives.
How can this be? When we pray to God to deliver us from evil, what possible spiritual reason could there be for evil in our lives?
I resisted this idea for a long time. I am an honest, forthright and honorable person. I played by the rules. I fulfilled my obligations. So why did I attract a lying, conniving con artist who took everything I had? Was this my reward for a moral, ethical life?
Eventually, I had to accept the fact that yes, as counterintuitive as it seemed, James Montgomery, my sociopathic ex-husband, was brought to me by the plan of the universe, the hand of God.
From time to time, I’ve briefly alluded to these ideas on the Lovefraud Blog, as have other Lovefraud readers in comments. But the ideas take a long time to explain—which is why I wrote the book.
So this blog will be a discussion of my book and the ideas that it contains. Some of you may consider my views to be too radical. Others of you may find the answers you were seeking.
In any event, it will be a fascinating conversation.