Why would a man who had no children and proclaimed himself an atheist buy a collection of decorative Easter eggs?
This is exactly what my ex-husband, James Montgomery, who I believe is a sociopath, did while we were together.
Now, these were not ordinary chocolate Easter eggs. One was a real egg, so big that it must have been laid by an ostrich, with a delicate feather attached and perched on a rustic wooden platform. Another real egg rested in a cozy, handcrafted nest of dried flowers, tied with a ribbon. Then there were two small wooden eggs from somewhere in Eastern Europe, delicately hand-painted.
The eggs all came from expensive gift shops. So why did my ex buy them? Because they were there.
Sociopaths feel no emotional connections to other people. Where most of us have feelings, they have empty voids. Apparently buying things fills the void, at least temporarily. Researchers have written about the link between sociopathy and consumerism.
I saw it first hand. I watched in amazement as, every time we went into a store, my ex-husband bought whatever was at the checkout counter—funky pencils, baseball caps, cartoon figurines. Of course, it was my money he was spending, all the while promising to repay me. No wonder I ended up bankrupt.
Sociopaths are smooth talkers with no sense of financial responsibility. Believe me, it’s an expensive combination.