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Archive for April, 2006

Las Vegas blog says Haberman is not to blame

Last week the Lovefraud Blog reported that Phil Haberman, who recently received an other-than-honorable discharge from the military and failed in his quest to get a Purple Heart, is currently online looking for love. Haberman’s MySpace.com profile says he was hurt in Iraq and he’s still in the reserves—just a few of his bogus claims.

The Las Vegas Review Journal included Haberman in a recent article about men who wear military medals that they didn’t earn. Glenn Campbell, author of the Family Court Chronicles blog in Las Vegas, sees nothing wrong stolen valor. “Let the boys play,” he writes.

Campbell expressed his views on the Review Journal article in a commentary called Cads on Parade (scroll down to 3/26/06). “Our position is, let people be whoever they want: Purple Heart veteran, Emperor of Spain, alien ambassador from the star Draconis,” he writes. “As long as they play their role with grace and aren’t hurting others, why does it matter?”

Phil Haberman keeps the con going

Lovefraud was contacted recently by Phil Haberman, who is profiled in True Lovefraud Stories. Haberman doesn’t like his profile and said it was based on the opinions of a woman who is a proud member of the first wives club. Haberman said that for his ex-wife their short-lived marriage was all about the money.

To vouch for him, Haberman had his friend, Pamela J. Sweeny, contact Lovefraud as well. Sweeny wrote, “Phil was a lonely soldier desperate for the family he never had before shipping out. He wanted someone to be waiting at home for him, and thought this woman and her daughter were exactly what he needed … unfortunately she really is a ‘card chaser’ looking for her latest meal ticket.”

Posted in: Cases, Donna Andersen

The Sociopath and the Easter Eggs

Why would a man who had no children and proclaimed himself an atheist buy a collection of decorative Easter eggs?

This is exactly what my ex-husband, James Montgomery, who I believe is a sociopath, did while we were together.

Now, these were not ordinary chocolate Easter eggs. One was a real egg, so big that it must have been laid by an ostrich, with a delicate feather attached and perched on a rustic wooden platform. Another real egg rested in a cozy, handcrafted nest of dried flowers, tied with a ribbon. Then there were two small wooden eggs from somewhere in Eastern Europe, delicately hand-painted.

The eggs all came from expensive gift shops. So why did my ex buy them? Because they were there.

How sociopaths are diagnosed

Sociopaths are difficult to identify—in part because they all behave differently, and some are worse than others.

There are sociopaths who hold a job, get married, attend church—yet emotionally abuse their families, cheat on their spouses, manipulate their coworkers, steal from their employers, and never get caught. There are sociopaths who never work, torture animals, con their relatives and commit cold-blooded murder—and end up in jail. And there are plenty of sociopaths in between.

The point is that sociopaths exhibit a wide range of behaviors. So it is not just the behavior that defines the sociopath—it is the personality traits as well.

Dr. Robert Hare has identified the key symptoms of sociopathy (he prefers the term “psychopathy”). They are:

Looks like a sociopath on the Dr. Phil Show

I happened to see the Dr. Phil Show on March 23, 2006. The topic for the day was Nasty Custody Battles. (The show originally aired on January 9, 2006.)

One segment was called An Out-of-Control Father? It featured Angela and Chris, the parents of a seven-year-old girl. Chris wanted visitation rights. Angela didn’t want Chris to see their daughter. She feared for the girl’s safety.

Why? Here’s how Chris matter-of-factly described his past on the show:

“As a juvenile, I was incarcerated for burning down a house. I stabbed one guy three times and it paralyzed him from the neck down. They ended up convicting me of assault causing bodily injury,” he said. “I was arrested in 2001 for first-degree burglary and attempted grand theft. I was sent to prison for 14 months.”