How to find love after the sociopath

Donna Andersen and Terry Kelly

Donna Andersen and Terry Kelly on a recent vacation to Florida.

A girl walks into a bar. A band was playing and the place was packed, so there were no empty bar stools.

The girl had had a rough few years. First she married a man who turned out to be a con artist that took all her money. Then she dated a guy who wasn’t a con artist, but broke her heart.

A tall, nice-looking man leaned against the bar. He offered the girl a place to put her coat. Then he offered to buy the girl a drink.

Two military training instructors found guilty of multiple offenses against Air Force trainees

Air Force Tech. Sgt. Bobby Bass was sentenced to six months in prison after he was convicted of 31 counts of cruelty, assault, dereliction, failure to obey a lawful command and wrongful sexual contact.

Sgt. Annamarie Ellis pleaded guilty of 24 specifications of maltreatment of trainees, dereliction of duty and obstruction of justice while assigned to the 323rd Training Squadron in 2009 and 2010. Ellis has been sentenced to eight months in prison, reduction to E-1 and a bad conduct discharge.

Bass was reduced by only one rank for his crimes and, unlike Ellis, he was spared a discharge at sentencing.

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New York paramedic almost gets away with murdering his wife

On Sept. 27, 2013, at the conclusion of the longest trial in the history of Sullivan County New York, a jury of eight men and four women found Paul Novak guilty of arson, burglary, grand larceny, insurance fraud, and first- and second-degree murder of his wife, Catherine.

During the week, Paul Novak, a career paramedic in Queens, New York, lived a life  of prescription drug abuse, porn, and life-or-death situations. On weekends he went to the country to be with his stay-at-home, church-volunteering wife and two children.

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Standing with a Sociopath

My sociopathic ex and I meet monthly with a psychologist. The Guardian ad litem for our three children ordered us to do this after my ex filed for full custody of our two boys last year. So we’ve met with this psychologist maybe 6 times now, and neither of us had ever met him before our first meeting. All he knew about us in advance is that we’re a “high conflict” couple, and he decided that the best thing he can do for our family is to help us get along.

‘Lord and Lady’ Chisholm lived in luxury while claiming public assistance and food stamps

Colin and Andrea Chisholm from Deephaven, Minnesota are under arrest for wrongfully collecting $165,000 through welfare fraud, while Colin was president and CEO of TCN network, a satellite TV company serving the Caribbean. The couple  had a $1.5 million yacht, a six-bedroom lakeside home, a beach property in Florida and a $30,000 Lexus. They also had $3 million in bank accounts that they failed to declare while claiming government assistance.

Chisholm’s ex-wife Virginia revealed how, while married to Chisholm, he allegedly took her $70,000 401 K savings, ran up $40,000 on his daughter’s credit card, failed to pay a single dollar in alimony and forced her to file for bankruptcy. She saw her dream home go into foreclosure after he failed to pay the mortgage.

Q & A With Forensic Psychiatrist Dr. Park Dietz


Park Dietz, M.D., M.P.H., Ph.D

This week I had the privilege of tapping into the vast knowledge of Dr. Park Dietz, one of the world’s foremost authorities on criminal behavior. He has consulted and testified for the prosecution in many high-profile criminal cases such as Jeffrey Dahmer, John Hinckley, Jr., the O.J. Simpson civil suit, Andrea Yates, the Unabomber, the Menendez brothers, Jared Lee Loughner, and Susan Smith. Dr. Dietz was also brought on as a consultant after the Columbine shooting to investigate the motivation behind the attack.

Study reveals Mafia prisoners less likely to be psychopathic than fellow inmates

Italian researchers in Sicily released a new study revealing that members of the Mafia are less likely to be psychopaths than other criminals. The study compared 30 Mafia members in a Palermo, Sicily jail convicted of crimes such as murder, trafficking, extortion, fraud, sexual exploitation and kidnapping, to a group of 39 non-Mafia prisoners, whose offenses included murder, rape, child sexual abuse and armed robbery.

The study concluded that, according to the Hare Psychopathy Checklist Revised, none of the Mafia scored in the psychopathic range, while 10% of the comparison prisoners did. The Mafia members were also found to be less ‘manipulative,’ ‘Machiavellian,’ ‘narcissistic,’ ‘unemotional,’ ‘parasitic’ and/or ‘impulsive’ than the other participants.

Is Rape Law Still in the Dark Ages?

Editor’s note: Joyce M. Short is the author of a just released book, “Carnal Abuse by Deceit.” The book chronicles her life with a predator, the subsequent aftermath and her road to recovery. It also provides advice for victims and their supporters, and discusses the issues surrounding criminalization of rape-by-fraud.

By Joyce M. Short

A new case in New Jersey will soon test that concept.

Enforcers will determine whether rape law protects a person’s right to self determination over their personal sexual intimacy. They could decide that choice simply does not matter at all, or they could protect the victim’s entitlement to choice based on the same rights granted in every other human interaction.

Petition to save an Iranian woman from being hanged for killing attempted rapist

Rayhaneh Jabbari

Iranian officials want to hang Rayhaneh Jabbari.

Rayhaneh Jabbari, a 26-year-old Iranian woman has spent the last seven years in prison because she fought back against a man attempting to rape her and killed him. Soon, she is scheduled to be executed by hanging.

A Lovefraud reader has forwarded a link to a petition to save the young woman’s life, which will be delivered to international authorities.

Although the case has not received much coverage in English-speaking media, the Lovefraud reader, who speaks Persian, says it has been covered in Persian media not controlled by the Iranian government. In fact, Nazanin Afshin-Jam, an Iranian-Canadian model and human rights activist who is married to Canada’s Minister of Justice, tweeted a link to the petition.

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Gary J. Aronson treats widow like gold — with money acquired by stealing her identity

Con artist Gary Aronson

Con artist Gary Aronson swindled more than $78,000 from a widow he dated.

By Donna Andersen

Lisa and Joe Sorrentino were happily married for 25 years. They worked together every day in Joe’s hair salon in Cherry Hill, New Jersey. They enjoyed their family.  But life changed in October 2008, when Joe was diagnosed with lung cancer.

Lisa Sorrentino had been working part time in the business, but as Joe weakened, she put in more hours and covered more of his clients.

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