How your brain enables you to be deceived

brainWhen we finally catch on that everything a sociopath told us was a lie, most of us are furious with ourselves for not seeing the deception.

We should cut ourselves some slack. A documentary that aired on the History channel explains why our brains misinterprets what we observe, and/or totally misses what is going on around us.

“We believe first, and ask questions later,” says science writer Jeff Wise in the show.

Your Bleeped Up Brain: Deception, on History.com.

Link provided by a Lovefraud reader.

Posted in: Scientific research

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As I learned more and more about the depths of my one-time husband’s deception and betrayal, one of the things I kept asking myself was this:

How did I get myself into this mess?

I was a college-educated journalist and business owner. I’d been dating for more than 20 years. Yet nothing this man promised me was real, and I couldn’t see it — until it was far too late.

How did this happen?


Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, offers online chat support group Sunday October 11

Mary Ann Glynn ad newBy Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW

If you would like to chat with others who have been in relationships with sociopaths, feel free to join our live chat group on Sunday October 10 at 8 pm EDT. 

To join the live chat at go to www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com. Scroll down the home page to the Services section. Click on the highlighted “live chat support group,” and you will be brought to the chat room as a Guest#. Hope to see you there!

Con man Patrick Giblin, released from prison after scamming 132 women, sentenced to 2 years for more violations


Patrick M. Giblin

Patrick M. Giblin

By Donna Andersen

CAMDEN, N.J. — Patrick Giblin, 51, of Atlantic City, New Jersey, was sentenced to two years in federal prison yesterday after violating the conditions of his supervised release. Despite promising to change his ways, Giblin had gone back to scamming women he met through dating websites and gambling in casinos.

Giblin was originally sentenced on April 17, 2007, to 115 months in federal prison after pleading guilty to 10 counts of wire fraud. Between 2000 and 2005, he defrauded 132 women out of a total of $320,241.


Tips for surviving a custody evaluation

220px-Crying-toddlerEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following email from a mother whom we’ll call “Natalya”. She shares a child with a sociopath and her custody nightmare keeps getting worse.

I have read in many articles and blogs that often psychologists would not recognize the psychopath and actually “allow” themselves to be manipulated. I thought it won’t happen to me as my son’s father is so ridiculous and I think it is so obvious to see something is wrong with him.

Unfortunately my custody evaluation was a disaster.

New York man allegedly plants spyware on wife’s iPhone before filing for divorce

spywareA matrimonial judge in Brooklyn, New York, has ordered the husband in a divorce case to allow his computers and cell phones to be inspected for evidence that he intercepted his wife’s confidential communications with her attorney.

In the case of Crocker C. v. Anne R., Justice Jeffrey Sunshine ordered sheriffs to seize Crocker’s electronics without notice.

According to the New York Law Journal, a technician retained by the wife’s attorneys had discovered three spyware programs in her phone:

  • Pangu, which is used to circumvent the iPhone’s anti-spyware protection (called “jailbreaking”)
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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: Pushed, and then abandoned, by a controlling older brother

Greek statue_300x271Editor’s note: Lovefraud received the following email from a woman who lives in Greece and Cyprus. We’ll call her “Evangelina.”

My brother is 14 years older. He took charge of my life’s choices (where to live as a child, what to study as young person applying for university), and I blindly followed, as I fully trusted him. He was my brother after all …

He then turned nasty every single time I did not fulfill his expectations. He even lied and said often that a choice that was made by him, was only mine.

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Soldiers kicked out of the Army for standing up against child rape

Sgt. First Class Charles Martland

Sgt. 1st Class Charles Martland

Two U.S. Army soldiers were kicked out of the military for confronting an Afghan police commander who allegedly raped a boy and beat his mother.

Sgt. 1st Class Charles Martland, a Green Beret who won two Bronze stars, and Captain Daniel Quinn were disciplined by the Army after they beat up the police commander.

Rep. Duncan Hunter, R-California, is demanding that the Army overturn the punishment.

In Afghanistan, men frequently abuse young boys. It’s called “bacha bazi,” or “boy play.”

Green Beret discharged for beating alleged child rapist speaks out, on CNN.com.

Posted in: Cases
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Why psychopaths don’t change

Angry psychopathLovefraud recently received the following question:

I’ve read in multiple places, written by multiple specialists that psychopaths/sociopaths cannot be rehabilitated or changed.

Surely I’m not the only person to have asked this:  Why not?

The short answer to this question is simple: Psychopaths don’t change because they don’t want to.

The key to any kind of behavioral change is desire. It’s hard work to change the way we relate to other people, the world or even ourselves. The reason any of us embark on a self-improvement project is because we are not happy. Our relationships are not fulfilling, we believe we could do better in our careers, or we just want to feel better. For reasons like these, we are motivated to change.

He controlled my moves and thoughts with diabolical and methodical precision

Spath TalesLovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we’ll call “Ingrid.”

I met my Sociopath over 10 years ago and just like in all the books and blogs I have read as of late fell hard and fast for what I thought was honesty as he would look me right in the eyes and tell me everything any women wants to hear … you know how beautiful I was, how he wishes he would have met me in his twenties, how we are so much alike, blah, blah, blah.

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