The Boston bomber liked cats and dogs — does that mean he’s not a psychopath?

Dzhokhar Tsarnaev

Dzhokhar Tsarnaev, one of the Boston Marathon bombers.

Dzhokhar “Jahar” Tsarnaev was found guilty of all 30 counts against him for the Boston Marathon bombing.

The sentencing phase of the trial is now underway. Yesterday, the New York Times reported that Tsarnaev finally showed some emotion. Some of his relatives from Russia traveled to Boston to plead for his life. They were sobbing, and the convicted murderer also began to cry.

According to an article by Lovefraud reader Anne Stevenson, one of the factors in the jury’s decision may be Tsarnaev’s relationships with cats and dogs.

Why do psychopaths want to mess with your head?

puppeteer and puppet businessLovefraud recently received the following question from a reader:

Why is it so important to psychopaths to get inside someone’s head and “mess with them,” such as gas lighting, and other head games?

This particular Lovefraud reader has endured stalking behavior from a psychopathic man for years. He has put her under surveillance, driven her from apartments, interfered with her job, and more — for no discernable reason.

They were not romantically involved. He did not take money from her. So the question is, why does he bother?

Dominance behavioral system


He was the most cold, detached individual I ever met in my life

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a woman whom we’ll call “Veronica Lee.”

Little did I know as a young woman to be aware of the signs.

He was so callous, he lacked empathy, he had no reciprocation of any kindness, he was aloof, he always blamed others for all his circumstances in life and as a child. I felt so sorry for him.

He was the most cold, detached individual I had ever met in my life.

Advice for Christians involved with sociopaths

If you’re a Christian woman, is it your duty to work harder and harder to please an abusive husband?

If you’re a Christian, should you hold out hope that God will change a sociopath?

If you’re a Christian, is it your duty to lead a sociopath to Christ?

No, no and no, says Shannon Thomas, LCSW-S, a Christian counselor from Southlake, Texas. She explains why in her blog article:

When a Christian meets a sociopath, on SouthlakeCounseling.org.

If you’ve struggled with these ideas, please read this article. It may give you a new perspective.


Stacey Castor: Killed second husband, suspected of killing first husband

Stacey Castor

Stacey Castor

ABC 20/20 recently aired the story of Stacey Castor, of Syracuse New York. She was convicted of killing her second husband, David Castor, by poisoning him with antifreeze.

Castor is suspected of killing her first, Michael Wallace, the same way.

Castor also attempted to murder her daughter, Ashley Wallace.

Watch the ABC 20/20video: Black Widow.

Convicted killer Stacey Castor testifies in her own appeal, on Syracuse.com.

Appeals court overturns $377K verdict for victim’s son in notorious Stacey Castor murder, on Syracuse.com.

Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader.


LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: Deception from the first encounter, and every single day thereafter

sad and stressed womanEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we’ll call “Marisol.”

When my boyfriend……….or should I say the man I thought was my boyfriend………..walked out the door a couple of days ago, I told him I felt like I had been sucker punched. He replied, “No, you haven’t” and shut the door.

Just two days before that, I read his wife/girlfriend?’s grandmother’s obituary whereby he was listed as the husband/significant other.

After 30 years with a sociopath, she’s now having the time of her life

Spath TalesEditor’s note: Lovefraud received the following story from a 67-year-old woman whom we’ll call “Maura.”

Lied, cheated, used me and others. Serial adultery, pornography, probable bisexual behaviors, never used condoms. I didn’t know about the adultery until much later.

He suffered a head injury, and I mistakenly attributed his bad behaviors to that. Violent and aggressive.

Marital fraud; some possessions, like a boat and trailer, “disappeared.” Claimed money and objects were stolen, but never reported thefts to the police.

Nagged and pestered me constantly to buy large items, mostly vehicles, that we couldn’t afford.

Do you speak psychopath? navigating and exposing disordered communication

Anyone who has ever been on the receiving end of disordered communication knows that it can produce an array of madness and negativity. That’s the point, after all. But, the more experience we have with it, the more we learn that it is all the same. The players may change, but the messages remain identical. Identifying the fact that the correspondence is, in fact, disordered is the first step to handling it positively. The next is to learn to read between the lines of the written word vomit to understand the actual meaning. When we can, it’s liberating.

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